I am Elena Zwetsloot and I am a parenting coach, the representative of the National Center of Biblical Parenting in the Netherlands. I am a mother of two and I live together with my husband and children in a small town close to Amsterdam. Together with Dr Scott Turansky I produce the Parenting is Heart Work Podcast. I am also the creator and producer of the Scripture Cards for Children, which will help your children (and yourself ) memorize bible verses in a fun and easy way!
When I became a mother, I did not realize the level of commitment and responsibility that is involved in parenting. I had a heart full of love and I simply believed that….parenting will just happen.
Soon, I found myself out of ideas when it came to getting my child to follow instructions, deal with his anger and tantrums...
Most parents use the behavior modification approach, punishment, and reward - Do this, and I will give you that. When children are young, it works for a while but in the long term, it grows selfishness in children, and when you ask them to do something they start asking: what do I get in return?
What does it take to develop inner motivation in our children?
To change their hearts so they can do what needs to be done without being asked or reminded. Sounds almost impossible, right?
As we've seen, the behavior-based approach might influence how your children act in the short term. Yet, for the change to be real and lasting, the transformation must take place in their hearts.
I would like to introduce you to the heart-based approach to parenting. Parenting on a heart level requires preplanning with a strategic emphasis on teaching, training, and building relationships. When parents focus on the heart, kids learn to ask different questions about life. Instead of asking: what’s in it for me? they ask: what’s the right thing to do?
Would you like to learn more?
If you want to learn how to parent the heart of your children and witness the tremendous transformation taking place in their character and behavior, get in touch!
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Live Workshop Series - starts on the 6th of October!
Starting the 6th of October I will be running an 8 weeks workshop series for families that want to learn more about the hear-based approach to parenting and see real change in their families :)!